Jordin and Jason are over.

About three years ago, these adorable couple were so much admired by the public with the expectation that their relationship will last long. Jason Derulo, 25 and Jordin Sparks , 24 had always been open about their love  as they both appeared in Jason’s music video, “Marry Me.”.  Unfortunately, the relationship is reportedly over. The two have agreed to remain friends. jordin-sparks-jason-derulo-ama-2012-red-carpet-01

When your partner gives a gift you don’t like.

imagesShould you pretend to like it or be honest? Every once in a while, there is tendency to get an unusual gift from a loved one. When this happens, one becomes confused about how to react in order not to hurt the giver’s feelings. However, the receiver wants to be able to express the fact that this gift is not acceptable, desirable, or tolerable.

So here is what to do,

– In this writer’s opinion, Accept the gift first and common courtesy demands that a person should have a clear sense of appreciation to show gratitude for the time and thoughtfulness of the giver.

– If you are allergic to the gift, explain right after accepting the gift but do not return it. Give it to someone else.

-If you are not allergic but dislike it,  sooner or later, your partner needs to know. So, wait  till days or weeks later, you can drop hints about things you like. Also, if you both are comfortable with each other and have good level of communication, you can be totally honest about your thoughts regarding the gift(s) in the middle of one of your conversations.

DON’Ts

-Do not show right away that you don’t like it-  Some might say, this is being deceptive but it is called being appreciative.

– Do not throw the gift back in your partner’s face

-Do not totally wait for too long getting the same unpleasant gift over and over again, you won’t feel good after a while.

In all, honesty is important but be wise in expressing yourself in order to avoid hurting your partner or lover’s feelings.

Share your personal experience and what you did.

Falling in Love vs. Being in Love

falling-in-love“There is a clear distinction between “falling in love” and “being in love.” People often use these expressions interchangeably without realizing its implications. These situations occur at different stages in a relationship. Even though the word “love” is included in both, it does not indicate the existence of love in one of them.  Lets analyze this, the feeling you get when you see someone once or a few times and you get attracted to the person is often referred to as falling in love when in fact it is only the stage of liking a person. When you’re falling in love, you don’t necessarily know the person well enough; in some cases you might not even know the person at all.  People often state that they are falling in love when having a crush on someone. For example, “there is an attractive lady at my workplace whom I see all the time but we have never spoken, I think I might be falling in love with her.”  This person may just like the lady but expresses it as “falling in love.” In certain instances when people are falling in love, it does not always last till the stage of being in love. Falling in love, which in literal sense should be the liking and admiring phase can quickly fade away.

On the other hand, being in love means that you are actually in love with a person and there has been a kind of connection between the two.  It has the potential of lasting longer than just falling in love. Being in love involves a deeper level of attraction and interaction. Its goes beyond merely falling in love, it is infact, several steps beyond that. To get to the stage of being in love with someone, it takes times and probably several months of interacting and communicating to develop this real feeling of love. It’s a more substantial feeling based on intimacy, compared to “falling in love” which is more based on infatuation. It is important to know the differences between these two statement in order to assess your emotional state toward a person,  or in a relationship.