Nagging

In this writer’s words, nagging is a more advanced form of complaining; It is simply, the constant reiteration of a point of concern. There will always be complaints wherever you find human beings but how does this transform into nagging? The literal definition of nagging is, “persistently recurring, constant demand, fault finding, and complaints.” Men have especially attributed nagging to women but in reality both men and women nag when issues are left unresolved.

To men- Nagging is a tactic used by women to torment, frustrate, annoy, provoke, and irritate them?
To women- It is not nagging, it’s just about addressing an issue or wanting to be heard

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Why do people nag?
To address a problem- More than often, people want things a certain way and the problem arises when it seems like things are out of place. Once the problem is discussed, a solution is expected but when there is no resolution, there is recurrence. With recurrence comes reiteration. It becomes nagging when you restate it more than twice to ensure your point is well noted and understood. Nagging pushes the receiver to and over the edge. Let’s not forget that, some people are naturally annoying, they make a big deal out of little things and nag the hell out of anyone around but they also want a problem to be resolved. Such people need special attention.
The truth is that, everything about nagging is negative because the person who nags is unhappy about whatever he or she is complaining about, likewise is the other person sick and tired of hearing it.

Best way to avoid nagging- Address the issue. You might not completely agree with whatever point is presented but there is always compromise.
Agree to disagree- Acknowledge the other person’s concern even if you have a different opinion, then state your opinion, and both agree on how to settle things.

P.S:
You will not have to listen to it the second time if you’ll just do something about it the first time.
To the nagger- Give it a break and find other ways of stating the same concern without complaining.

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The leading on game

Leading people on is without a doubt a way of catching some fun to your own advantage. Who would pass up an opportunity which promises certain benefits? Even though, you are getting a form of self satisfaction from this, have you ever stopped to think about how unfair it is to deceive a person? Yes, leading a person you don’t intend to date on is a form of deception. It is about intentionally playing a make believe game to suit a selfish purpose. There are many reasons for leading people on, but there is always a motive behind it for people who play such game. It is possible that a person is confused at first but it is certain that intentions to actually be with the other person is very minute. Here are a few reasons why people play the leading on game; for money, sex, or just to enjoy someone else’s company.

Possible excuse for leading on
– Doing the other person a favor: You can tell that the other person is more interested in the relationship than you are and you don’t want to hurt their feeling. The longer you lead them on, you’re creating a deeper hurt in the end. The best favor to do is to be honest up front and find something better to do with your time, maybe get someone you’re interested in and invest that much time into that relationship.

What the leading on game leads to
– There is uncertainty about where it eventually leads, just like gambling, anything can happen. There have been couples who started out not having the slightest intention to get serious but the unexpected happens where the deceiver falls in love. The unforeseeable possible outcome of leading people on is that, you might fall in love and the joke is on you. Therefore, while playing such game, bear in mind that your heart is at risk of falling in love, so play wisely