Many relationships look rosy from a distance, when in reality, they are hell on earth for the people in it. Why is it difficult to love without having so much problems? No one ever bargains for getting trapped in horrible relationships. It just happens and blows out of control. You don’t only find such relationships in the movies, they are everywhere around you. Your neighbor, uncle, aunt, brother, parents, friend, pastor, or even you, can be managing bad relationships.
What leads to these uncontrollable situations?
It usually starts with little things. For example, after some months of being with a person, you might discover certain unpleasant characteristics he or she possess. The way you decide to handle these discoveries will determine the state of your relationship. Most relationships grow sour as a result of selfishness, inability to sacrifice, low tolerance, unrealistic expectation, ignorance, arrogance, and many more.
Should uncontrollable situations exist in a relationship?
If each party is functional in their individual roles in the relationship, “uncontrollable” would not be an option. This means there is cooperation to sort things out. Alongside cooperation, comes determination to get through the situation. Situations get the best of you only when you fail to put it under control.
A common excuse for bad relationships are, “things are just not working out.” Well, things can’t just work themselves out, the people involved need to get busy. The so called good relationships are not naturally made that way, they are comprised of people who are willing to make it work regardless of what happens. This shows that a relationship would not exist if strong bond and motivation are absent.
Your relationship is not the things you own together, it is how dear you hold your partner close to your heart, it is the way to respond/react to the things the other person does or the situations that affect you and your partner, it’s the way you view your partner, it is your purpose for being with your partner. This is why a couple can move anywhere without a single luggage and still have a great relationship.
Any relationship can be a minute away from taking a bad turn if proper care is not taken, therefore, make a conscious effort to sustain your good relationship.