Doing what your partner likes

In relationships and marriages, individuals have interest in different things based on their personalities and preferences. Interestingly, problems arise when there is no willingness to support a partner.
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Relationships are not always about finding someone with similar interests and beliefs. In fact, there is beauty in having differences. It shows the uniqueness of each individual, hence, creating a deeper sense of appreciation for your partner’s personality. When committing yourself to a person, you are agreeing to accept them as a part of your life while you also share theirs. Sharing might not always be convenient but you can learn to tolerate each other in order to make your relationship work.

A key to success of relationships is the ability to be a supportive partner. This does not necessarily indicate that you are becoming less of yourself; it means you are sacrificing and compromising. This will enable your partner to see how much you care and respect him or her.

Pretense is not an advisable way of being supportive. It’s better to admit that you don’t have a taste for something but be willing to give it a try rather than pretending to like it. Your partner will be more appreciative of your honesty and openness.

While it is nice to be supportive of things your partner likes, you have to wise in keeping your values. In some instances, people tend to lose their self-esteem and pay less attention to their interest in the name of love. It is no longer love or support when you only do what the other person likes. It’s about both of you, and there has to be a reasonable balance in the relationship. If you are a selfish partner, always demanding things to go your way according your likes and dislikes, it’s about time to focus on the other person’s interests.

If you find yourself in a situation where your partner likes what you don’t like, what do you do?

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Looking good, feeling ugly

When you see me, you see a glowing light
When you see me, you see happiness
When we talk, I brighten up your day
When you cry, I am there to cheer you up
But, If only you had the slightest idea of how ugly I feel inside.
If only you can see my gloomy nights
Spend a little more time with me and you would sense my flight of fears
Look deeper into my eyes and you would see my pool of tears
Listen harder and you would hear my heart crying out loud for help
Beneath that smile lies a strain of pain
Looking good outside, feeling ugly inside.

Dear Rapist (Sex Slave),

Who goes out simply for the purpose of getting some kind of rough, violent sex at the detriment of the other party? What in the world happened to the sanctity of enjoying having sex with mutual consent? What human being in the proper frame of mind will go out to inflict pain on another person for pleasure? There are many cases of people being sexually aggressive as a result of uncontrollable sexual urges. It is not about the urge, it is more about the thought processing and decision making on how to satisfy the desire.

There is no reasonable excuse for the act of a rapist, it is always a conscious act committed in a ruthless manner. You take time to think about what you want, and how to get it. It doesn’t just happen, you have more than enough chance to stop yourself but you keep telling yourself “no I’ve got to do it.” The moment you are unable to stop your thought and abnormally raging hormone, therefore proceeding to plunge your filthiness into anything or anyone, you have lost touch with reality.

To you pedophile, spare the little children, they are to be protected and cared for. Raping little girls and molesting little boys is another level of heartlessness and brutality. It is simply inhuman, it goes to show how disturbed and deranged you are. It indicates that you do not believe in yourself, you have low self-esteem, no personality, lack of integrity and dignity.

Sex is only for temporary gratification but it leaves lasting impression on people involved. Your few minutes act creates a lasting scars on your victims. Dear rapist, are you ever satisfied or happy after performing your act of wickedness? It’s impossible to get long lasting satisfaction from your activities because you will keep looking for more. This eventually gets you behind bars where you should probably be kept for the safety of people. Wild and vicious animals are usually locked up and secluded from others. You can tell yourself you are not an animal, but if you find it difficult to control your abnormal sexual desire to hurt other people, consider yourself one.

Dear rapist, why don’t you find something better to do with your life and release yourself from the sexual bondage you are in. You have become a slave to your sexual desires.If you don’t care about yourself, don’t drag people down with you and leave them feeling worthless and depressed for the rest of their lives.